Building on strengths or scared of weaknesses?
Headlines in a way, mislead you. This is because ‘bad news’ is headlines and gradual improvement is NOT. Bill Gates.
My fake plants died because I did not pretend to water them. Mitch Hedberg.
One of the first steps to accomplishing great things in life is to cease dwelling on the negative things in the past. Quit limiting your potential by constantly thinking about what has gone wrong in the past.
Second step? Carefully assess your present strengths, successes, and achievements. Dwell on those positive events in your life.
Well, to put it in the context of parenting, Alice and the Mad Hatter in Wonderland had a conversation that solemnly touches upon this idea very creatively.
Alice: Where I come from, people study what they are not good at in order to be able to do what they are good at.
Mad Hatter: We only go around in circles in Wonderland, but we always end up where we started. Would you mind explaining yourself?
Alice: Well, grown-ups tell us to find out what we did wrong, and never do it again
Mad Hatter: That’s odd! It seems to me that in order to find out about something, you have to study it. And when you study it, you should become better at it. Why should you want to become better at something and then never do it again? But please continue.
Alice: Nobody ever tells us to study the right things we do. We’re only supposed to learn from the wrong things. But we are permitted to study the right things other people do. And sometimes we’re even told to copy them.
Mad Hatter: That’s cheating!
Alice: You’re quite right, Mr. Hatter. I do live in a topsy-turvy world. It seems like I have to do something wrong first, in order to learn what not to do. And then, by not doing what I’m not supposed to do, perhaps I’ll be right. But I’d rather be right the first time, wouldn’t you?
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Sometimes, because we are driven by fear, the way mosquitoes are attracted to garbage. our mind is attracted to what can go wrong.
When we are driven by courage and optimism, the way the butterflies are attracted to nectar, our mind is attracted to the strengths we possess.
Studies made by the world’s leading research firm Gartner confirms, chances of being great is super high when we base our life on our strengths.
What’s your parenting style?
Building on strengths or scared of weaknesses?
On a lighter side, would the Mad Hatter of Wonderland be pleased with you or confused with you?
