“If humans did not have the desire to feel special, the flower bouquet, the desserts and the gift industry would have died by now.”
We all have this need to feel special! We all love it when someone makes us feel special.
In our children, this need is greater. They have a longing to be made to feel special by their parents. Children crave for that attention from their parents. They need to know that as parents you are there for them no matter what. It means a lot to children when they know that they can fall back on their parents.
Let’s discuss why children crave for attention. Why do they feel this way?
First of all, they don’t have any accomplishments to believe they are special. Your children have no assets that can make them feel good about themselves. They do not have tested relationships that can make them feel unique and loved. They cannot be of use to anyone else who will go out of their way to make them feel special. So, it is left to the immediate family and parents to make them feel important and special. Seems like a big responsibility, right?
It’s actually not, let me explain.
There is a simple solution, the best thing about making your children feel special is that you can be as creative as you want and it is effortless!
Here are 11 ideas that have worked with kids brilliantly, to make them feel special:
- Sneak in some ‘love you’ notes and encouraging messages in their books and bags.
- Fill their tiffins with their favorite food once a while.
- Allow them to sleep in a little extra.
- Watch their favorite TV program with them.
- Indulge in some fun pillow fights with them.
- Share jokes, ask them to tell you some, laugh together.
- Keep a small piece of chocolate in the drawer they will open to get books.
- A ruffle on the head when the kid is lying down.
- Appreciation in the presence of others.
- Hug them when you come from work the moment you see your child.
- Ask them how was their day and what they did?
Such small acts would make our kids feel special and instill a sense of being loved. This feeling of being special is directly connected to their self-belief. We’ve talked about how self-belief helps your children become better in great detail in our wow parenting app.
Now, do you know why these ideas work so well?
The beauty of the above pointers is that these do not take too much time to prepare nor do they take a lot of time to execute. Parents just need a simple deep desire to make the kids feel special. Why wouldn’t you want to make your child feel special after all they mean the world to you?
Understand what is going on in your child’s mind, empathize with them. When you understand and empathize with your child you make them feel special. They start sharing with you like never before. When you start making your child feel special, you will, in turn, feel special yourself.
This example will explain it better.
If you hug your kid when you return home and tell them, “Your hug makes me feel fresh, irrespective of how my day was so far”, your child feels super special with these encouraging words. You can see the sparkle in their eyes. Your words have made their day.
Small efforts from your side can make your child feel special and connected. When you make your child feel special they will open up to you about their life choices and decisions. You become more of a friend to your kid. You will see that your kid is sharing with you much more than they used to earlier. They will confide in you because they know you understand them.
Making your kids feel special in most cases will not even require effort. Parents do not have to go out of their way to make their kids feel special. Small gestures of love and kindness are all that it takes to connect with your child.
May you successfully fill the lives of your kids with hugs, notes, little treats and enjoy the journey of ‘WOW Parenting’!
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