Ability to ask questions: honing this skill in your kids
I was in an Uber Pool car on my way home. Two sisters trooped in. One had a bubbly 3 year young child. Here is how the conversation went…
Child – Maa, tell me honestly, where does God live.
Maa – (While texting) He lives in the hearts of young nice children.
Child – (As we pass a Shiva temple. Its peak traffic. Our car is crawling) – Maa, tell me honestly, who lives there? (pointing towards the temple)
Mother – (Looking up from her phone) – (Taking a deep sigh) (A little restless now…) He lives there too.
Child – (By now it had raining) – Maa, tell me honestly, who sends us rains?
Maa – Arre baba, it is god who sends us rains. I have told this many times, haven’t I?
Child – If God stays here, then how he sends rain from the skies?
Maa- God stays in many places. He has many homes. When you grow up, you too should have many homes…
I was amazed at the questions of the child. I was equally amazed at the composure displayed by the mother. I was expecting her to snap at any moment. I have seen parents do that. She didn’t. She struggled to maintain composure but she did it successfully.
I wanted to clap for both of them. My home arrived and I had to get down. I gave a high five to the child saying “You are a smart child.” Her interest was already on the roads. Without looking at me she said, “I know.” and I burst out laughing.
Things are changing fast in this age. We are struggling to keep up and deal with the generation gap between us and our children. We are constantly striving to adapt and succeed in our lives. Of course, we want our kids to do very well in every aspect of their lives. For that to happen, we need to mould several traits and habits in them. One of them is the ability to ask questions.
Why do we need to hone in our kids, the ability to ask questions
In this ever-changing world, where past skills become redundant soon, what will you equip your children with? The faster they learn to learn, the more they will be relevant to this world. That’s why we need to develop in our children, the ability to ask questions. Those who ask questions, learn a lot. Those with a capacity to learn ALWAYS have an advantage over others. This ability equips our kids to observe and understand the world, the events and occurrences around them, and the general scheme of life. Ability to ask questions helps in the cognitive development of children, helps develop in them, the ability to think critically, while fine tuning their thinking skills. That’s how they learn to think independently and become problem solvers. All of this happens through the simple act of being curious, letting that curiosity flow and take shape into questions. Encouraging kids to ask questions can go a long way in helping them become intelligent, smart, aware kids.
What is this ability all about?
Children are born with the ability to ask questions. When they are young, all their questions seem so adorable! Children love asking questions. They are naturally inquisitive and curious. However, as kids grow up, we do not particularly look forward to their unending curiosity. Curiosity is a very great trait actually. Someone wise has said, ‘The antidote to boredom is curiosity. There is no antidote to curiosity.’ Isn’t that brilliant! The world belongs to people who are willing to and who are open to learning. Learning happens fast when we are willing to ask questions. People who ask questions, can learn things even on their own. Without that ability, we can learn only what is taught. Every inventor, explorer, revolutionary and history maker had the quality, ability and aptitude to ask questions.
Where do we goof up?
We discourage our children from asking questions. We sometimes get angry at them, yell at them, or make fun of them. In the process, we stunt their growth. We live in a fast-paced busy world, juggling multiple roles, ambitions and responsibilities. If we do not have the luxury of taking our own sweet time to sit with our kids,, we naturally tend to become snappy at their unending questions. But we need to remedy this so as to help are kids stay curious and inquisitive.
How do we help our kids develop the ability to ask questions?
In order to develop in our kids, the ability to ask questions, we need to patiently and lovingly answer them. No one expects us to know all the answers. Guiding them to find their own answers is good to. The point is to not discourage them from asking questions. We can set aside some time to sit with them, indulge them, let them ask whatever they wish. It can be the time when we are exclusively available only to our kids, even if it is just half an hour in a day. It will go a long way in helping your kids.
Why is it imperative?
In times to come, this ability will help and give them an edge over others. This quality will stand them as an advantage to learn things faster. Such ability will help our children be ready to face anything that life throws at them. So be a patient and happy parent when your kids ask questions. Humor them and show them the way. Do not trample their spirit even accidentally by discouraging them from asking questions.
If you need more practical tips on building the ability to ask questions in your kids, watch the video on this subject from the 8 Critical Abilities topic of the parenting program. Also when you have your own parenting queries, do not forget to send them to us! We look forward to help you out with every parenting query of yours.